夫妻間其實常常為了一點小事情吵架 若緊抓目對方的語病或陳年往事反反覆覆一直碎碎念 發牢騷 撕破了裂痕更難彌補 有時會吵得無法收拾 靜下心來 當爭吵得很激烈時 暫時迴避一下 不要再講任何話 有時反而能讓彼此沉澱下來. 最重要的不是要吵贏 反而弱勢的一方會吃到拳頭. 很多的家暴會製造更多的問題.

夫妻吵架的藝術, 千萬不要贏

     夫妻吵架的藝術     [男女之間]
     美滿的婚姻不是光憑著夫妻兩人循規蹈矩，不做錯事情，就可以保證得到
     的。
     兩個人還有一個重要的功課去學習，就是如何處理彼此之間的衝突。

     1.夫妻之間，吵架是很難避免的，應該視為正常現象，不必驚慌。

     夫妻兩人，不僅性別不同，性格、觀念、習慣等亦互有差異。
     戀愛時，彼此還有機會掩飾；
     結了婚，朝夕相處，互動頻繁，大大小小的衝突是無法避免的。
     面對這些衝突時，若是大驚小怪，
     以為有了爭執就表示兩個人不適合在一起，這是一種錯誤。

     反之，若以為美滿的婚姻就是兩個人永遠不爭吵，
     所以在衝突時，只好極度的容忍，百般的委曲求全，
     以維持一個表面的和平狀態，這也是不正常的現象。

     事實上，夫妻應該以積極的角度來看吵架。
     「會」吵架的夫妻（即知道吵架的原則的人），
     兩人之間的感情會愈來愈好，而且吵架的次數也會愈來愈少。

     2.吵架是「角度」問題，而不是「是非」問題。

     夫妻吵架的主要原因是以為事情一定只有一個答案。
     吵架者的基本心態是「這件事一定是我對，我的另一半一定錯了。」
     問題是當兩個人都這樣想時，吵架就層出不窮了。

     事實上，家庭糾紛、夫妻爭執等經常都沒有固定的答案，
     他們純粹是角度問題，而不是是非問題。
     「會吵架」的人在爭執的過程中，努力的去體會對方的真正意思，
     或比較兩人之間的差距在那。
     「不會吵架」的人，在爭執的過程中卻極力的要駁倒對方，
     只要證明自己的「無誤」，結果反而兩敗俱傷。
     3.夫妻吵架應該「講情」，而不是「講理」。

     一般吵架的特徵是爭理，所以拚命的抓住對方的語病，
     找出對方邏輯的缺陷，集中火力而攻之，讓對方沒有招架的餘地。
     問題是「爭理」的過程中往往會「傷情」，
     贏了理往往使對方更對你沒有感情而已。
     夫妻之間的爭執用「交情」來處理，遠比用分析、辯論的吵架要有建設性。

     4.千萬不要在第三者面前吵架。

     吵架者為了證實自己是對的，經常喜歡投訴局外的第三者，
     希望別人會支持他。
     而為了爭取較多的同情，就必須不斷的提到配偶的不是。
     這種在第三者前控訴配偶的習慣對夫妻之間的感情破壞性極大，
     夫妻之間必須竭力避免，否則受害的還是自己。

     「會」吵架的人只希望夫妻兩人能面對面的處理彼此之間的衝突，
     不願在父母、朋友、同事面前吵，如此兩個人感情復原的可能性就可以提
     高。

     5.千萬不要贏。

     夫妻吵架不管誰贏誰輸，事實上沒有贏者，雙方都是輸家。
     萬不得已吵架時，會吵架的人頂多只是「點」到為止，從來不想贏架。

     幾年前，美國有人研究受虐待的太太（Abused Wives），
     結果發現，挨打的太太們的共同特徵是她們每次在吵架時都是吵贏先生的。
     而先生們既然無法在言詞上得到優越感或成就感，只好用拳頭來爭取了。
     可見吵贏了架不僅沒有實質上的好處，而且可能會招來毒打。

     會吵架的人，事事給對方留餘地，讓對方有臺階可下，
     不會吵架的人卻時時想把對方趕盡殺絕。

     6.敘述事情的真相，不要加油添醋的形容自己的感覺。

     吵架一定是事出有因。
     「會」吵架的人在吵架的過程中會集中在事情的敘述上，
     讓對方知道自己的狀況與需要；
     「不會」吵架的人卻喜歡誇大的表達自己在生氣，
     因此常用最偏激的形容詞來激怒對方。
     例如某個家庭主婦因為養育四個幼小的子女而無暇整理家務，
     導致家中髒亂不堪。若丈夫懂得如何「吵」的話，
     他不妨敘述問題的真相即可。
     如「太太，妳一定很忙，家中連一個乾淨的碗也沒有！」
     太太聽到這句話時，也許會覺得愧疚趕快洗碗。

     不會「吵」的丈夫若說：「妳這又懶、又邋遢的女人，簡直髒得跟豬一樣…」
     家中的大戰就無法避免了。

     7.先認輸的人才是大勇者。

     吵架既然是角度不同所引起的衝突，成熟的人會極力的設法去避免。
     而避免吵架的最好的方法就是承認對方的意見可能比自己的好。
     這種反應需要有足夠的自信心，
     與成熟度的人才能做出來，但是值得大家去學習。

     對自己的配偶讓步絕對不是損失，而是收穫。
     而配偶聽到對方先讓步時，千萬不可說：「早就說你錯了，到現在才承
     認！」
     相反地，應該給配偶更多的鼓勵與尊敬，
     那麼下一次吵架時，配偶就更願意先讓步了。

Toastmaster

The Toastmaster is a meeting’s director and host. You won’t usually be assigned this role until you are thoroughly familiar with the club and its procedures. If your club’s customs vary from those described here, ask your mentor or the club vice president education (VPE) for pointers well before the meeting.

Begin preparing for your role several days in advance. You can use the Toastmaster's Check List to help you prepare. You’ll need to know who will fill the other meeting roles and if a theme is planned for the meeting. You’ll also need an up-to-date meeting agenda. Get this information from your VPE.

Next, contact the general evaluator and make sure you’re both working from the same agenda. Ask the general evaluator to call other members of the evaluation team – speech evaluators, Topicsmaster, timer, grammarian, Ah-Counter – and remind them of their responsibilities. Remember, as the director, you’re responsible for ensuring all of the meeting’s players know their parts and hit their marks.

To help the Topicsmaster, create a list of program participants already assigned a speaking role so he or she can call on others first.

As the Toastmaster, you’ll introduce each speaker. If a speaker will not write his or her own introduction, you will write it. Introductions must be brief and carefully planned. Contact speakers several days before the meeting to ask about:

• Speech topic and title
• Manual and project title
• Assignment objectives
• Speaker’s personal objectives
• Delivery time

You need all of these elements to create your introductions. Remember to keep the introductions between 30-60 seconds in length.

For more information about introductions see When You’re the Introducer (Item 1167E) and The Better Speaker Series module Creating an Introduction (Item 277).

Of course, you want to avoid awkward interruptions or gaps in meeting flow so your last preparation step before the meeting is to plan remarks you can use to make smooth transitions from one portion of the program to another. You may not need them, but you should be prepared for the possibility of awkward periods of silence. 

The Big Show
On meeting day, show up early. You’ll need time to make sure the stage is set for a successful meeting. To start, check with each speaker as they arrive to see if they have made any last-minute changes to their speeches – such as changing the title.

You and the speakers will need quick and easy access to the lectern. Direct the speakers to sit near the front of the room and make sure they leave a seat open for you near the front.

When it’s time to start the program, the club president calls the meeting to order. Sometimes he or she will make announcements, introduce guests or conduct other club business before introducing you.

When you’re introduced, the president will wait until you arrive at the lectern before being seated. (This is why you should sit at the front of the room.)

Pay attention to the time. You are responsible for beginning and ending the meeting on time. You may have to adjust the schedule during the meeting to accomplish this. Make sure each meeting segment adheres to the schedule. If time allows, you can make some brief remarks about Toastmasters’ educational program for the benefit of guests and new members before you move forward with the introductions:

• Introduce the general evaluator as you would any speaker. Remain standing near the lectern after your introduction until the speaker has assumed control of the lectern, then be seated. The general evaluator will introduce the other members of the evaluation team. 
• Introduce the Topicsmaster as you would any speaker. Remain standing near the lectern after your introduction until the speaker has assumed control of the lectern, then be seated.

In some clubs it is customary for the Toastmaster and the person assuming control of the lectern to exchange a handshake. This isn’t required, but it’s sometimes done to help new members recognize when control of the lectern passes from the Toastmaster to the speaker and vice versa.

After the Table Topics session has concluded, most clubs begin the speaking program. Introduce each speaker in turn.

You will lead the applause before and after the Table Topics session, each speaker and the general evaluator. When each presenter has finished, you return to the lectern so the speaker can be seated and you can begin your next introduction.

At the conclusion of the speaking program, request the timer’s report and vote for the best speaker, if your club offers this award.

Briefly reintroduce the general evaluator.

While votes are being tallied, invite comments from guests and announcements (such as verification of next week’s program).

Present trophies or ribbons as practiced by your club.

Request the thought for the day if your club provides for this. Be sure to find out when your club does this during a meeting. Many clubs end on this note while others prefer to begin a meeting with this thought in mind.

Adjourn the meeting, or if appropriate, return control to the club president.

Serving as Toastmaster is an excellent way to practice many valuable skills as you strive to make the meeting one of the club’s best. Preparation is key to your success.

Topicsmaster

With TABLE TOPICS™, the Topicsmaster gives members who aren’t assigned a speaking role the opportunity to speak during the meeting. The Topicsmaster challenges each member with a subject, and the speaker responds with a one- to two-minute impromptu talk.

Some people underestimate the Topicsmaster role’s importance. Not only does it provide you with an opportunity to practice planning, preparation, organization, time management and facilitation skills; your preparation and topic selection help train members to quickly organize and express their thoughts in an impromptu setting.

Preparation is the key to leading a successful Table Topics session:

• Several days before the meeting, check with the Toastmaster to find out if a theme meeting is scheduled. If so, prepare topics reflecting that theme.
• Confirm who the prepared speakers, evaluators and general evaluator will be so you can call on other members at the meeting to respond first. You can call on program participants (speakers last) at the end of the topics session if time allows.
• Select subjects and questions that allow speakers to offer opinions. Don’t make the questions too long or complicated and make sure they don’t require specialized knowledge.
• Phrase questions so the speakers clearly understand what you want them to talk about.

Remember, too, that your job is to give others a chance to speak, so keep your own comments short.

Table Topics usually begins after the prepared speech presentations, but there are variations from club to club. Ask the Toastmaster or vice president education if you’re unsure of when your portion of the meeting begins.

When the Toastmaster introduces you, walk to the lectern and assume control of the meeting:

• Briefly state the purpose of Table Topics and mention any theme.
• If your club has a word of the day, encourage speakers to use that word in their response.
• Be certain everyone understands the maximum time they have for their response and how the timing device works (if the timer hasn’t already done so).

Then begin the program:

• Give each speaker a different topic or question and call on speakers at random.
• Avoid going around the room in the order in which people are sitting.
• Don’t ask two people the same thing unless you specify that each must give opposing viewpoints.
• State the question briefly – then call on a respondent.
• You may wish to invite visitors and guests to participate after they have seen one or two members’ responses. But let visitors know they are free to decline if they feel uncomfortable.

Watch your total time. You may need to adjust the number of questions so your segment ends on time. Even if your portion started late, try to end on time to avoid the total meeting running overtime.

If your club presents a best Table Topics speaker award:

• Ask the timer at the end of the Table Topics session to report those eligible for the award. Though the times vary among clubs, generally a participant is disqualified for stopping 15 seconds prior to the allowed time or speaking 15 seconds beyond the allowed limit.
• Ask members to vote for best Table Topics speaker and pass their votes to the sergeant at arms or vote counter.

If your club has a Table Topics evaluator, ask for his or her report and then return control of the meeting to the Toastmaster.

TABLE TOPICS™ Speaker

Most of the talking we do every day – simple conversation – is impromptu speaking. Yet for some members, TABLE TOPICS™ is the most challenging part of a Toastmasters meeting.

Table Topics continues a long-standing Toastmasters tradition – every member speaks at a meeting. But it’s about more than just carrying on an anxiety-ridden tradition. Table Topics is about developing your ability to organize your thoughts quickly and respond to an impromptu question or topic.

Table Topics usually begins after the prepared speech presentations. The Toastmaster of the meeting will introduce the Topicsmaster who will walk to the lectern and assume control of the meeting. The Topicsmaster will give a brief description of the purpose of Table Topics and mention if the topics will carry a theme.

The Topicsmaster will state the question or topic briefly and then call on a respondent. Each speaker receives a different topic or question and participants are called on at random.

When you’re asked to respond to a topic, stand next to your chair and give your response. Your response should last one to two minutes.

Now, take a deep breath and get ready to be remarkable!

General Evaluator

Improving the process
while overseeing the execution.

Don’t worry; there’s no capital punishment during Toastmasters meetings. Unless, of course, the grammarian is in a bad mood.

If you think of a club meeting as a project, then you can see the general evaluator as a kind of project manager. As GE, your responsibilities include:

• Ensuring the speech and leadership project evaluators know their responsibilities
• Supervising the timer, grammarian and Ah-Counter
• Evaluating everything that takes place during the club meeting
• Making sure each activity is performed correctly

Several days before the meeting, contact the person who will be Toastmaster of the meeting and confirm the meeting program. You should also develop a checklist to follow during the meeting so you don’t have to keep all the details in your head. Some clubs have a prepared checklist. If your club doesn’t have one, ask the Toastmaster to help you create your own checklist.

When discussing the meeting program with the Toastmaster, ask what evaluation format to use. Typically, an evaluator is assigned to an individual, but sometimes evaluations are done by panels. The general evaluator may set up any evaluation procedure he or she chooses, but it should fit into the meeting program. Remember, too, that every evaluation must be brief and complete. Review the Effective Evaluation manual for different evaluation formats.

You’ll also need to contact members serving as:

• Timer
• Grammarian
• Ah-Counter
• Individual evaluators

Remind them of their assignments, and brief evaluators on their responsibilities, the members they will evaluate and the evaluation format to use. Make sure the evaluators understand that evaluation is a positive, helping act that enables fellow Toastmasters to develop their skills. Point out that an evaluation should enhance the speaker’s self-esteem and encourage evaluators to prepare thoroughly for their role. Recommend that they call the member they’ve been assigned to evaluate to discuss specific project objectives.

Your final task before the meeting is to prepare a brief verbal explanation detailing:

• The purpose, techniques and benefits of evaluation so guests and new members will better understand the function of evaluations.
• How evaluation is a positive experience designed to help people overcome flaws and reinforce good habits in their presentations.

On meeting day:

• Arrive early.
• Make sure all evaluators are present and that they have the appropriate speaker or leader’s manual.
• If an evaluator is absent, consult with the vice president education and arrange for a substitute.
• Ask each evaluator if he or she has any questions about the project objectives to be evaluated, verify each speaker’s time and notify the timer if there are any changes.
• Take your seat near the back of the room. This will ensure you have a good view of the meeting and all its participants.

The Toastmaster of the meeting usually introduces the general evaluator before the Table Topics portion of the meeting. But your club may have a different order for introductions, so check with the Toastmaster or VPE before the meeting if you’re not sure when you’ll be introduced.

When you’re introduced:

• Stand by your chair and deliver the explanation you prepared.
• Identify the grammarian, Ah-Counter and timer and have these members briefly state the purpose of their jobs.
• Request the word of the day, if your club has one, from the grammarian and then be seated.

During the meeting, use your checklist and take notes on everything that happens (or doesn’t, but should). For example: Is the club’s property (e.g. trophies, banner, educational material) properly displayed? Were there unnecessary distractions that could have been avoided? Did the meeting, and each segment of it, begin and end on time?

Study each participant on the program, from the person giving the invocation or thought for the day to the last report by the timer. Look for good and less than desirable examples of preparation, organization, delivery, enthusiasm, observation and general performance of duties. When it’s time to begin the evaluation portion of the meeting, the Toastmaster will introduce you, again. This time, you’ll go to the lectern and introduce each evaluator. After each recitation, thank the evaluator for his or her efforts.

Finally, give your general evaluation of the meeting:

• Use your checklist and the notes you took during the meeting.
• Phrase your evaluation so it is helpful, encouraging and motivates club members to implement the suggestions.
• You may wish to comment on the quality of evaluations. Were they positive, upbeat, helpful? Did they point the way to improvement?
• When you’ve completed your evaluation, return control of the meeting to the Toastmaster.

Being general evaluator is a big responsibility and it is integral to the success of every single club member. People join Toastmasters because they have a goal – they want to learn something. The club is where they learn. If the learning environment isn’t focused and fun, members won’t learn what they joined to learn. Your observations and suggestions help ensure the club is meeting the goals and needs of each member.

And what do you get out of the deal? You get the chance to practice and improve your skills in critical thinking, planning, preparation and organization, time management, motivation and team building!

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Ah-Counter

Helping members off their crutches

The purpose of the Ah-Counter is to note any word or sound used as a crutch by anyone who speaks during the meeting. Words may be inappropriate interjections, such as and, well, but, so and you know. Sounds may be ah, um or er. You should also note when a speaker repeats a word or phrase such as “I, I” or “This means, this means.” These words and sounds can be annoying to listeners. The Ah-Counter role is an excellent opportunity to practice your listening skills.

Several days before the meeting, use the information in A Toastmaster Wears Many Hats or in the appendix of the Competent Communication manual to prepare a brief explanation of the duties of the Ah-Counter for the benefit of guests.

When you arrive at the meeting, bring a pen and blank piece of paper for notes, or locate a blank copy of the Ah-Counter’s log, if your club has one, from the sergeant at arms.

The president will call the meeting to order and introduce the Toastmaster who will, in turn, introduce you and the other meeting participants. When you’re introduced, explain the role of the Ah-Counter. Some clubs levy small fines on members who do or do not do certain things. (For example, members are fined who use filler words or are not wearing their Toastmasters pin to the meeting. A fine is usually about five cents, acting more as a friendly reminder than a punishment.) If your club levies fines, explain the fine schedule.

Throughout the meeting, listen to everyone for sounds and long pauses used as fillers and not as a necessary part of sentence structure. Write down how many filler sounds or words each person used during all portions of the meeting.

When you’re called on by the general evaluator during the evaluation segment, stand by your chair and give your report.

After the meeting is adjourned, give your completed report to the treasurer for collection of fines if this tradition applies to your club.

Grammarian

The syntax sentinel 

Before the Meeting
One benefit of Toastmasters is that it helps people improve their grammar and word use. Being grammarian also provides an exercise in expanding listening skills. You have several responsibilities: to introduce new words to members, to comment on language usage during the course of the meeting, and to provide examples of eloquence.

Several days before the meeting, select a "word of the day" (if this is done in your club):

• It should be a word that will help members increase their vocabulary – a word that can be incorporated easily into everyday conversation but is different from the way people usually express themselves.
• Adjectives and adverbs are more adaptable than nouns or verbs, but feel free to select your own special word.
• Print your word, its part of speech (adjective, adverb, noun, verb) and a brief definition in letters large enough to be seen from the back of the room.
• Prepare a sentence showing how the word is used.

Also, prepare a brief explanation of the duties of the grammarian for the benefit of the guests.

At the Meeting
Before the meeting begins, place your visual aid at the front of the room where everyone can see it. Also get a blank piece of paper and pen ready to make notes, or get a copy of the grammarian’s log, if your club has one, from the sergeant at arms.

When introduced:

• Announce the word of the day, state its part of speech, define it, use it in a sentence and ask that anyone speaking during any part of the meeting use it.
• Briefly explain the role of the grammarian.

Throughout the meeting, listen to everyone’s word usage. Write down any awkward use or misuse of the language (incomplete sentences, sentences that change direction in midstream, incorrect grammar or malapropisms) with a note of who erred. For example, point out if someone used a singular verb with a plural subject. “One in five children wear glasses” should be “one in five children wears glasses.” Note when a pronoun is misused. “No one in the choir sings better than her” should be “No one in the choir sings better than she.”

Write down who used the word of the day (or a derivative of it) and note those who used it correctly or incorrectly.

When called on by the general evaluator during the evaluation segment:

• Stand by your chair and give your report.
• Try to offer the correct usage in every instance of misuse (instead of merely announcing that something was wrong).
• Report on creative language usage and announce who used the word of the day (or a derivative of it) correctly or incorrectly.

After the meeting, give your completed report to the treasurer for collection of fines, if your club does this.

Timer

One of the skills Toastmasters practice is expressing a thought within a specific time. As timer you are responsible for monitoring time for each meeting segment and each speaker. You’ll also operate the timing signal, indicating to each speaker how long he or she has been talking. Serving as timer is an excellent opportunity to practice giving instructions and time management – something we do every day.

Here’s how to succeed as timer:

• Before the meeting, contact the Toastmaster and general evaluator to confirm which members are scheduled program participants. Then contact each speaker to confirm the time they’ll need for their prepared speech. 
• On meeting day, retrieve the timing equipment from the sergeant at arms. Be sure you understand how to operate the stopwatch and signal device, make certain the timing equipment works and sit where the signal device can be seen by all. 
• The Toastmaster of the meeting will usually call on you to explain the timing rules and demonstrate the signal device. 
• Throughout the meeting, listen carefully to each program participant and signal them. Generally, Table Topics speakers should be +/- 15 seconds of allowed time; prepared speakers must be +/- 30 seconds. However, these times may vary from club to club. In addition, signal the chairman, Toastmaster and Topicsmaster with red when they have reached their allotted or agreed-upon time. Record each participant’s name and time used. 
• When you’re called to report by the Topicsmaster, Toastmaster or general evaluator, announce the speaker’s name and the time taken. Mention those members who are eligible for awards if your club issues awards. 
• After the meeting, return the stopwatch and timing signal device to the sergeant at arms. Give the completed timer’s report to the secretary so he or she can record it in the minutes (if this is done in your club).

Take on this role and the new habits formed will serve you well in your private life and your career. People appreciate a speaker, friend or employee who is mindful of time frames and deadlines.

Evaluator

People join Toastmasters to improve their speaking and leadership skills, and these skills are improved with the help of evaluations. Members complete projects in the Competent Communication and Competent Leadership manuals and you may be asked to evaluate their work. At some point, everyone is asked to participate by providing an evaluation. You will provide both verbal and written evaluations for speakers using the guide in the manual. You’ll always give a written evaluation for leadership roles, though verbal evaluations for leaders are handled differently from club to club. Sometimes verbal evaluations are given during the meeting and sometimes they are given privately, after the meeting. Check with your vice president education (VPE) or the Toastmaster if you’re not sure of your club’s method.

By giving feedback, you are personally contributing to your fellow members’ improvement. Preparing and presenting evaluations is also an opportunity for you to practice your listening, critical thinking, feedback and motivation skills. And when the time comes to receive feedback, you’ll have a better understanding of the process.

Meeting Speaker

No doubt you’ve guessed that the speaking program is the center of every Toastmasters meeting. After all, what’s Toastmasters without the talking? But members don’t just stand up and start yakking. They use the guidelines in the Competent Communication (CC) manual and the Advanced Communication Series (ACS) manuals to fully prepare their presentations.

The CC manual speeches usually last 5-7 minutes. ACS manual project speeches are 5-7 minutes or longer depending upon the assignment.

Every speaker is a role model and club members learn from one another’s speeches. Prepare and rehearse to ensure you present the best speech possible. Don’t insult your fellow club members by delivering a poorly prepared speech. However, it’s also true that no speech is perfect. So, get out there and try! Here’s what to do:

• Check your club’s meeting schedule regularly to find out when you’re assigned to speak. Begin working on the speech at least a week in advance. That way, you have enough time to devote to research, organization and rehearsal.
• If you don’t write your own speech introduction, make sure the Toastmaster of the meeting prepares a good one for you.
• Several days before the meeting, ask the general evaluator for your evaluator’s name. Talk with your evaluator about the speech you’ll give. Discuss your speech goals and personal concerns. Let your evaluator know where you believe your speech ability needs strengthening, so he or she can pay special attention to those aspects of your presentation. Remember to bring your manual to the meeting.
• You should arrive at the meeting early to check the microphone, lighting and anything else that could malfunction and ruin your talk. Give your manual to your evaluator before the meeting starts and discuss any last-minute issues with him or her. Sit near the front of the room and carefully plan your approach to the lectern and your speech opening.
• During the meeting, give your full attention to the speakers at the lectern. Don’t study your speech notes while someone else is talking. When you’re introduced, smoothly and confidently leave your chair and walk to the lectern. After your speech, wait for the Toastmaster to return to the lectern, then return to your seat. Listen intently during your evaluation for helpful hints that will assist in building better future talks.
• After the meeting, reclaim your manual from your evaluator. Discuss any questions you may have concerning your evaluation to clarify and avoid any misinterpretations.
• Finally, have the vice president education (VPE) initial the Project Completion Record in the back of your manual.

You’ll enjoy a growing sense of confidence as you repeat these steps with new speech projects. Don’t be afraid to do the work, enjoy the applause and reap the educational benefits. Your courage will be rewarded!

As another new year come

around, may it bring for

you...

New hopes, new dreams,

new aspirations... and

new Joys! Happy New

Year 2013!

姓氏

Wish you a New Year filled with peace, prosperity & happiness!

Happy New Year 2013! 

 May your holidays be filled with joy and warmth.
And your new year with lots of hope, fun, strength and awesomeness.

李安與他的妻子！
 
李安1954 年出生在臺灣，祖籍江西。 他出身書香門第，父親是一所中學的校長，家教十分嚴格。 1973年，李安考取了臺灣國立藝專戲劇電影系。 在國立藝專，李安對演戲和電影製作越來越有興趣， 還曾獲得臺灣話劇比賽大專組最佳男演員獎。
 
1975 年，他畢業後前往美國留學，先是在伊利諾大學學習戲劇導演，獲戲劇學士學位。
1978 年，在一次留學生的聚會上，李安遇見了臺灣留學生林惠嘉。初次見面，李安就被性格開朗的林惠嘉深深吸引了。這次聚會之後，他主動約林惠嘉看球賽，對性格靦腆安靜的李安也頗有好感的林惠嘉很爽快地答應了。
 
林惠嘉從小就非常聰明，台大畢業後以優異的成績考到美國伊利諾大學攻讀生物學博士學位。跟林惠嘉在一起，李安就像找到知音一般，總有說不完的話。  認識兩年 之後，李安前往紐約大學學習電影製作。每個禮拜他都要打很長時間的電話給林惠嘉，這個習慣一直保持至今。他說，林惠嘉是自己最佳的傾聽者，她雖然沒有女性 特有的嬌媚，但聲音有一股神奇的撫慰人的力量。當他心情不好的時候，只要聽到林惠嘉的聲音，所有的煩惱立刻煙消雲散。
 

戀愛5年之後，李安和林惠嘉在紐約舉行了一場中西合璧的婚禮。他們的婚姻得到了雙方父母的支持和祝福。  李安說，他拍的電影《喜宴》情景都是他當時結婚實況的翻版。
 
婚後兩人分隔兩地，聚少離多。李安在紐約大學念電影系，林惠嘉在伊利諾繼續攻讀博士學位。可是兩人的感情非常好，李安每次臨走前總是會做好一冰箱豐盛的食物留給妻子，口袋也總是隨身攜帶著妻子的照片。李安的溫厚，搭配妻子林惠嘉的能幹，他的感性遇上了她的理性，就好像一座天平，為這個家找到了一個最適合的平衡點。
在紐約大學學習期間，李安就顯示出了他導演方面的非凡才華。1984 年，他的畢業作品《分界線》 獲得了紐約大學生電影節金獎作品獎及最佳導演獎，並取得電影碩士學位。
畢業後，李安留在美國試圖開拓自己的電影事業。但一個沒有任何背景的華人想在美國電影界混出名堂來，談何容易。
 
最初有一家經紀人公司看中了李安的才華，答應做他的經理人，但李安一直沒有適合美國人的劇本，經理人也只是空談。   然後，李安在美國開始了長達 6年的等待。那段時間，李安失業在家，主要靠身為藥物研究員的妻子在外工作，養家糊口。  李安每天在家除了大量閱讀、大量看片、埋頭寫劇本以外，還包攬了所有的家務，負責買菜做飯帶孩子! ，家收拾得乾乾淨淨。  每到傍晚做完晚飯後，他就和兒子一起興奮地等待…
『英勇的獵人媽媽帶著獵物回家』這常常令林惠嘉覺得很溫馨很感動。
 
面對丈夫的失業，林惠嘉也曾有過傷心絕望的時候。  有一陣子她忙於上班接送孩子，由於家中只有一部車，李安常常一個人從租的住處走一個小時去打網球，打完球後再走一個小時回家，她看在眼裡，心想自己真的要與這樣的人過一輩子嗎？然後她打越洋電話向媽媽訴苦，媽媽聽了很心疼，在電話中對女兒說：『實在不行，你就離了吧。』可是放下電話後，林惠嘉就忍不住嚎啕大哭，不斷譴責自己：【我怎麼變成這樣的女人。】
 
夫妻本應該互相支持的，比起丈夫所受的苦，她覺得自己所做的根本算不了什麼。這次之後，她就再也沒有這樣抱怨的念頭出現。 許多親戚朋友看不過去，就對林惠嘉說：『為什麼李安不去打工？大部分中國留學生不都為了現實而放棄了自己的興趣嗎？』看見妻子肩上的負擔那麼重，李安覺得過意不去，就偷偷地開始學電腦，那個時候會電腦比較容易找工作。可沒過多久，這件事就被林惠嘉發現了，她很生氣地說：『學電腦的人那麼多，又不差你李安一個！』在妻子的堅決反對下，李安只好打消了出去找工作的念頭。
 
林 惠嘉知道李安真的只會拍電影，別的事物不會也不感興趣。她對丈夫的才氣十分肯定，她相信丈夫一定會成功的。在此期間，大兒子李涵、小兒子李淳相繼出世。林 惠嘉個性非常獨立，自己能做的事從不麻煩別人。大兒子出生時，林惠嘉半夜感覺羊水破了，於是自己開著快沒油的汽車到醫院生孩子，當醫生問她要不要通知丈夫 或親友時，她說不用了！醫護人員還以為她是棄婦。李安直到第二天搭飛機回到伊里諾，這才知道自己已經做爸爸了。二兒子出生時林惠嘉又趕丈夫走： 『你放心地去辦你的事吧，我一個人能行。而且你又不能幫忙，又不能幫我生！』
 
那些年，林惠嘉對李安最大的幫助就是〝不理他〞，讓他去沉澱、去成長。她認為一個人要清楚自己的方向，一旦做出了決定就要為自己的決定負責，李安清楚自己只喜歡電影也只會拍電影，他就應當為自己的決定負責到底。當年她決定嫁給李安時，她清楚電影是李安惟一的選擇與愛，無論好的壞的她都必須接受。
 
生活中，林惠嘉是家中規矩的建立者，家裡凡事她說了算， 只要是妻子的命令，李安絕對服從。只要李安在家，加上兩個兒子，這三個男人每天晚上都搶著跟她說話，時林惠嘉自己也感到困惑，老公和孩子對自己服貼，究竟是她真的懂得 〝經營〞，還是他們本性太好了，能包容像她這樣的太太和媽媽？
 
多年的女主外男主內的生活不僅讓李安練就了一手做菜的〝絕活〞，也磨練了他的性情。1990 年之前，李安一直處於懷才不遇的境況，不停地到好萊塢碰運氣，但都找不到合適的機會，外人都嘲笑他拍電影的熱情是癡人說夢，但妻子林惠嘉始終在背後默默地支持著他。他說： 『妻子對我最大的支持，就是她的獨立。她不要求我一定出去工作。她給我充足的時間和空間，讓我去發揮、去創作。 要不是碰到我妻子，我可能沒有機會追求電影生涯。』
 
 經過磨練，李安的 〝中國功夫〞終成正果。1990 年，臺灣新聞局徵選劇本，李安編寫了《推手》，結果獲得臺灣 1990年的政府優秀劇作獎。 之後很快由臺灣中央電影公司投資、紐約庫德瑪西恩公司製片開拍了。  這部電影是李安導演生涯的第一部長片，影片上映後好評如潮，獲得當年臺灣金馬獎最佳導演獎提名，所有人都稱讚這個突然殺出的青年導演，而李安此時已經 36歲了。
 
這次的成功，使臺灣中影公司對李安更加有信心，決定投拍題材比較敏感的 《喜宴》。
影片上映後又獲得更大的成功，李安也一躍成為世界知名導演。  1994 年，李安執導了《飲食男女》，成功地完成了他的 〝父親三部曲〞。影片獲第七十七屆大衛格里菲斯獎最佳外語片獎，名列 1994年臺灣十佳華語片第一名。
 
在接下來的 5年中，李安又拍攝了三部純美國題材的影片： 《理智與情感》、《冰風暴》和《與魔鬼共騎》。影片再一次大獲成功，不僅獲得柏林電影節金熊獎，而且還在奧斯卡競爭中獲得七項提名。
在李安開始一部片接一部片的拍攝，電影事業逐漸攀上高峰的同時，林惠嘉卻並沒有因此而成〝跟班夫人〞，反而更投入醫學的研究工作，同時也更盡職地扮演母代父職的角色，照顧孩子的學習和生活。 對於李安取得的驕人成績，她覺得這是他在電影這條路上堅持不懈努力的結果，所以雖然身為親密的伴侶，她始終不認為自己在李安拍電影這件事情上扮演過什麼關鍵的角色，李安的成就自然也應該歸屬於他本身。
 
林惠嘉經常被丈夫對電影的執著感動。1999 年暑假，電影剛開拍時她曾經帶著兩個兒子到大陸探過一次班，當她看到李安當時面臨困境身心俱疲時，她心疼得直掉淚。無論遇到多大的困難，李安從來不在拍片期間向妻子訴苦，他是個會把許多壓力放在心上的人。不過拍完戲回家的李安，可就非常需要妻子了，跟家人在一起，是他最開心的時刻。
 
功夫不負苦心人。經過兩年的奮鬥，李安拍攝的武俠片 《臥虎藏龍》將中國傳統文化融入一個曲折動人的悲情故事，贏得了東西方觀眾的一致好評，在很難打入的美國市場贏得一億多美元的票房，取得華語電影絕對空前的驕人成績。
 
2001 年的金球獎頒獎典禮上… 李安接過朱麗亞·羅伯茲頒發的最佳導演獎時，幽默地調侃道： 『我的驚喜之情難以形容。我要感謝我強悍的太太，她是《臥虎藏龍》裡，除了碧眼狐狸之外所有女角的典範……』
 
2001年的奧斯卡獎項情鍾 《臥虎藏龍》。頒獎前，林惠嘉帶著全家來到洛杉磯表示對丈夫的支持。在接受媒體採訪時，兩個兒子說： 『爸爸很幸福，能夠娶到像媽媽這樣的女人，這是爸爸最成功的地方。』
 
《臥虎藏龍》終於不負眾望，開創了華語電影的紀錄，一下子就拿下最佳藝術指導、最佳攝影、最佳電影音樂、最佳外語片幾個獎項，這是過去奧斯卡歷史上所沒有的。在奧斯卡頒獎典禮上，李安在得獎感言中一再提到妻子：『我老婆沒有女主角俞秀蓮漂亮，但有她的堅毅，她也有玉嬌龍的離經叛道的個性，因為她有時候會令人嚇一跳。』幾乎在李安所拍的每部電影中的女主角都有妻子林惠嘉的影子。
 
之後，李安開始執導耗資 1億 5000萬美元的電影 《綠巨人》，這是他拍攝的投資最大的影片，又是首次拍攝科幻片。很多事情都要摸索， 他的家人都對他完成這部影片給予了直接或間接的影響和幫助。林惠嘉是微生物學家，影片?有關遺傳基因生化部分的情節……都是她先幫助丈夫瞭解後，他再找人寫劇本，便於觀眾看得清楚明白；電影?的人體細胞圖片，也是向林惠嘉借來的；電影?有一場綠巨人與怪獸狗對打的戲，怪獸狗的圖形是大兒子李涵畫的。因為電影中涉及了深層次的人性探討，李怕年幼的觀眾看不懂，於是以小兒子李淳做測試。李淳看後讓老爸放心： 『沒問題，現在年輕人很早熟。』
 
果然2003 年 6 月20日，《綠巨人 上映一周之間便征服了美國影迷，奪得全美票房冠軍。
丈夫出名後，林惠嘉則對於別人稱她為導演夫人或李太太感到不習慣，要求別人直接叫她的名字或稱她為李媽媽。她雖然認為拍電影很辛苦，電影人很需要家庭力量的支援，但她更強調個體的獨立自主性，認為李安成名與否對她不會發生任何改變。  她說： 『李安還不是導演的時候，我就是我，李安當導演以後，我還是林惠嘉。』
 
從當年默默無聞到今天全球最著名的華裔導演，李安在生活態度上同樣沒有任何改變。
以李安今日的成就與地位，外面誘惑那麼多，有很多人擔心他的純樸能維持多久？林惠嘉笑著說： 『李安是很善良的人，而人的本質不容易改變，我一向的原則是只要我們自己能做的，絕不麻煩或增添他人負擔，再說【惡婆娘】如我，隨時耳提面命，李安大概還不會那麼容易被寵壞吧！』
 
在妻子眼裡，聲名顯赫的大導演李安永遠是一個聽話的好丈夫。當年李安獲得第一個金熊獎時興奮地從柏林給妻子打電話，誰知林惠嘉為從睡夢中被吵醒感覺很不爽，怪他小題大做。『她就是這麼酷，這麼多年來，這些外在的東西對她好像沒有半點影響。』
 
成名後，李安只要有時間照樣會在家下廚房給家人做飯吃。 拿了奧斯卡小金人後，有一次李安和妻子到華人區買菜，有位臺灣來的女人對林惠嘉說： 『你命真好，先生現在還有空陪你買菜！』不料當即遭到林惠嘉的搶白： 『你有沒有搞錯呀，是我今天特意抽空陪他來買菜的。』
 
現在李安去外面拍片，回到紐約的時候，無論多早多晚，即使公司安排車子接送，林惠嘉都盡可能自己開車去接丈夫，因為這段時間對他們很重要。在車上，大導演還像個孩子般忙不迭地、絮絮叨叨地對老婆述說外面的一切。  然後，聽老婆的讚美，也聽老婆的教誨。他說，以前窮困時，靠老婆養，現在當導演，在外頭耀武揚威，回家做收心操，像是煮煮菜，『求』老婆罵一罵。   被老婆修理一下，也好收收心，算是平衡一下。
 2001 年，《臥虎藏龍》沒有得到臺灣金馬獎最佳導演獎時，有記者問李安的感想，李安幽默地說： 『很想快點回家被老婆罵一罵。』
 
李安名滿天下後，美國華裔社區的男女老少請林惠嘉主講： 【牽手與推手 --- 談家庭溝通和簡易人生。】林惠嘉穿著一身普通的褲裝，不染頭髮、不施脂粉，渾身上下透著一種真實的本色。她首先介紹自己是個〝只有李安能夠忍耐〞的妻子，然後回憶起夫妻倆，在李安 6年時間與幸運女神無緣的日子裡不慕財富的共識。   低調的她表示，作為李安的妻子，她和普通觀眾一樣絕不去干涉他的創作，但自信雖然不常看見丈夫，卻非常瞭解他在想什麼。
 
在談及家庭溝通時，她認為相互之間的 信任、寬容、耐心和避免斤斤計較。感恩過去… 把握當下…創造未來…
 

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>>有一種現象，稍留心些就發現：老年人中，很多只剩下一位女的，男人比女人要早許多年就過世。

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>>我們到晚年，不管年紀多大，也不管身體狀態怎麼樣，只要有老公始終陪著妳，就算活到八十，活到九十，活到一百，妳也不會感到淒涼和孤獨。

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>>即使到了暮年，夫妻相伴，白天一起看電視看報紙聽收音機，一起旅遊一起到好朋友家喝茶聊天，一起到花園和草坪散步，那份快樂，那份自得，其實，是多少兒女都無法替代的。

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>>也是任何人都無法替代的。

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>>更何況，現在的人，大多也只能有一個孩子？

>> 

>>按一般人的認識，男人比女人堅強，女人生兒育女，肯定身體不如男人。

>> 

>>可是，為甚麼許多老人，大多都是老公撇下老妻先走了呢？

>> 

>>其實，男人，並非像女人以為的那樣堅強。

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>>他們的堅強，是因為他們把人生遇到的所有屈辱，失落，挫敗，病痛，沮喪，生活的壓力和人生的沉重，全都隱忍在自己心中，不肯說出來，不肯表現出來罷了。

>> 

>>而所有的這些隱忍在心的情緒，其實，全都像一個又一個的「電腦病毒」積累到最後，結果就是崩盤，當機。

>> 

>>男人為甚麼會酗酒？為甚麼會抽煙？為甚麼會沉思？

>> 

>>更多的原因，其實，是他心理已經積存了太多的病毒。

>> 

>>就因為他是男人，他不能輕易流淚，更不能輕易向人訴說。

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>>他必得在妻子，在兒女，在父母面前做出硬漢子的形象。

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>>而女人，卻習慣哪怕一點點的委屈，都會向丈夫，向父母，向姐妹們，向好友傾訴出來，女人病毒不會積存。

>> 

>>她會在每一次的傾訴和淚水中，清理皆淨。

>> 

>>而人類，幾乎所有的疾病，更多的原因就是鬱積出來的。

>> 

>>所以，情緒愛宣洩出來的女人，往往壽命長久。

>> 

>>而男人，卻早於妻子離開人世。

>> 

>>怎麼樣才能讓老公儘可能活得更長久，儘可能陪妳到老？

>> 

>>從現在做起，立即行動！

>> 

>>那麼，妳該著手做些甚麼事？

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>>一，當老公回到家中，儘可能給他營造一個溫馨輕鬆的環境。

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>>其實，沒有重要客人來訪，幹嘛一定非要把地拖得一塵不染？衣服幹嘛非要當時就洗？為甚麼一定要把本該在家中休閒放鬆的時間，弄得兩人都緊緊張張的？而夫妻兩口，磨嘴的時候，多是家務。

>> 

>>二，當老公在外面不快時，即使他不說，妳也要儘可能去察覺，

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>>一面用愛心關懷他，給他做個下酒菜，倒一杯酒，講些幽默的段子，先轉移他的不快，接著慢慢尋問。

>> 

>>如果他不想告訴妳，甚至不想提及，妳一定不要再繼續打聽。

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>>他一定是受了很重的內傷，此時，男人是習慣自己舔傷口的。

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>>妳能做的是一個字：愛！體貼！溫柔！

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>>這雖不一定能排解他的內心的鬱積和傷口，但一定會是止痛劑和消炎藥。

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>>如果他肯說了，那麼，不管他說出來的是甚麼事，妳都不能在此時抱怨他了。

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>>妳能做的，就是開導和疏導他轉移不良情緒。

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>>其實，他的所有不快，說穿了，決不會超過「名利」二字的範圍。

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>>再則就是和人起了爭執，受了領導的指責。

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>>如果，妳最在意的是老公的健康，是老公能陪妳到老，妳就不該最在意丈夫的名利，

>>命中該有的終須會有，沒有的，掙死，也來不了。硬撐著掙來的，還會失去。

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>>不在這方面失去，必會在另一方面失去。這是鐵定的規律。

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>>妳如果不在意了，丈夫會活得十分輕鬆。

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>>這種輕鬆，恰恰會成就妳們得到許多驚喜！

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>>三，酒不可過量。

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>>酒場上逞英雄的，其實大家表面誇他，轉臉都會當他是傻瓜。

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>>煙，如果實在斷不了，儘可能不要吸劣質煙，但一定說服他少吸煙。

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>>四，如果必須得和年老的婆婆同住，

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>>沒有條件和並不年老的婆婆分開居住，妳就一定要接受現實，儘量和婆婆搞好關係。

>> 

>>因為，妳容不下丈夫的母親，妳們的矛盾，妳們的每一場戰爭，都必會減弱丈夫數月、一年，甚至幾年的壽命。

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>>反之，他如果天天和妳母親不和吵鬧，妳該怎麼辦？壓抑而無奈又夾在板中的妳，肯定一樣也會減壽的。

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>>好，這到以上四點，下面的就容易多了：

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>>五，妳要是愛妳丈夫，就不要多弄那些煎炸烹炒的食物給他吃。

>> 

>>這個不能由著他的性子。多做一些素菜和涼拌菜。要像哄孩子那樣哄他吃這些。

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>>當他吃完這些清淡的素菜之後，他也會發覺，過去那種老吃油水大的煎炸食物後，莫名其妙的頭昏腦漲，無精打彩和昏昏欲睡等等說不出原因的不良狀態，會驟然改善。

>> 

>>六，妳要想丈夫陪妳到老，妳要儘可能讓丈夫參加有氧活動。

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>>跑步，快走，打球，旅行，爬山，打拳，哪怕沒有條件，在屋內活動一下筋骨，地板上打幾個滾，都一樣能起到鍛練的目的。

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>>七，妳要想丈夫陪妳到生命的盡頭，就要關護他像關護孩子般。

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>>只要妳是真愛他那個人的，而沒有太多的附加條件，妳一定樂意試試。

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>>妳這樣做了，妳會發現，他會活得很開心，會活得很熱烈，會活得很有成就感，會活得很健康，他一定會回報妳的。那是妳始料不及的。

>> 

>>即使他很普通，但他一定是真愛妳的，他也一定不會先走，他會一直陪著妳，活得很久很久，一直陪妳到生命的盡頭。

>> 

>>姐妹們，當我們老到白髮蒼蒼時，當我們老到腿腳酸疼時，當我們老到腰彎，可是，只要有老公陪在身邊，妳會知道，千萬資產，也不如一個陪了妳一生一世的老公為妳端來一杯熱茶，數來幾片藥片。

>> 

>>當我們老到滿臉皺紋時，多少昂貴的禮服和化妝品，也不如老公輕輕地挽著妳的胳臂走在夕陽的草叢中。

>> 

>>當我們老得只能在搖椅裡甚至輪椅裡搖啊推時，妳會發覺，甚麼豪宅權威功名，也抵不上夜半變天時，老公為妳加打開電熱毯和一聲問侯。

>> 

>>八，為甚麼要從現在做起而不是將來？

>> 

>>因為，一棵樹，越早矯正，它就直得越早。

>> 

>>老公也如此，越早注意對他的關愛，他的身心就會一直健康，即使有了病毒，也會被妳的愛及時清除，而不至於積留到未來。

>> 

>>妳能做到這些，能使他的身心得到健康的同時，因為妳們是一起生活的，所以，妳自己也必將快樂和健康。

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瑪雅人曆法預言--2012年人類將走向全新的文明

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根據瑪雅人的長曆法 (Long Count Calendar)，2012年12月21日將是本次人類文明結束的日子。此後，人類將進入與本次文明毫無關係的一個全新的文明。

瑪雅人沒有提到什麼原因使本次文明終結。有一點看來很明確，這個終結日並不意味著什麼大劫難的到來，而是在暗示一種全人類在精神和意識方面的覺醒和轉變 (Cosmic Awareness and Spiritual Transition)，從而進入新的文明。

瑪 雅人不擁有我們現代的科學技術，但他們對天文及數學的精通令人嘆為觀止。此外，還有很多令人猜不透的迷。他們有發達的道路系統但卻不使用輪子，這樣，他們 也就不需要役使牛馬。但他們是知道輪子的，因為後人發現了他們用輪子給孩子做的玩具。他們信手就可以把月亮背面的圖像刻在月亮神廟的門上當作裝飾，讓我們 的科學家一開始捉摸不透，等科學家證實了這是月亮背面圖像時又百思不解：他們怎麼能看到的？因為月亮永遠只把一面向著地球。這也許是因為他們的宇宙意識曾 賦予他們特殊的智慧，瑪雅人曾有他們自己的修煉體系（見圖)。瑪雅人在他們文明的鼎盛之際不留痕跡地遁去，使後人費盡心機也猜不出其中的原因。

公元1521年，入侵的西班牙人得到的只是被瑪雅人遺棄的空城。西班牙人毀去了大多數瑪雅人留下的文字記載，僅存的三本書使後人無法破譯他們的文化。

瑪雅人雖然早就消失了，但曆法卻留下了，而且預測了幾千年以後本次文明的終結點--2012年12月21日。他們在留給誰看呢？

根據瑪雅的長曆法，2012年12月21日是第十三個Baktun的最後一天，瑪雅人記為13.0.0.0.0.。先讓我們來學習一下瑪雅人的記數法：

天數 / 術語
1 / Kin (天)
20 / Unial (瑪雅曆法的關鍵數是20)
360 / Tun
7200 / Katun
144000 / Baktun

舉 例來說，6.19.19.0.0.等於6個Baktun，19個Katun，19個tun，0個Unial，0個Kin。算下來等於 6 X 144000 + 19 X 7200 + 19 X 360 = 1007640 天。13.0.0.0.0 等於 13 X 144000 = 1872000 天，算下來等於 5125.36 年。根據 J. Eric S. Thompson 計算，瑪雅人的 0.0.0.0.0 相當於Julian 的第584283天，即是公元前3114年8月11日。13.0.0.0.0 就是這個日子的5125年以後，即是公元2012年12月21日。

因為瑪雅人是觀天的大師(Skywatchers)，瑪雅文化的學者仔 細地研究了2012年12月21將出現的天象，明白了為什麼瑪雅人把這一天定為本次文明的終結日。這一天是冬至(Winter Solstice)，這一天的太陽將與銀河系的黃道 (Ecliptic) 和赤道
(Eqator) 所形成的交叉點完全重合 (圖１)。

此時的太陽恰好落在銀河系的縫隙中，或者說銀河系“座落”在地球上，如同為地球開啟了一扇“天門”(圖2)。

公 元755年，瑪雅的一位僧侶預言：1991年以後，人類有兩個重大事件要發生--人類的宇宙意識覺醒和地球的淨化與再生。事實上，瑪雅人把第十三個 Baktun的最後二十年 (最後的一個Unial，即1992年至2012年) 稱為地球再生或淨化期 (Earth Regeneration or Earth Purification Period).

其實，在日常生活中我們經常可以看到對未來的啟示，只不過人們視而不見。在我們每天使用的美元的壹元的紙幣的背面也有一個類似的預言，請參見：
http://www.greatseal.com /。 其中的一個印章(Seal) 的圖像是金字塔(圖3)，這個金字塔有13層，在13層金字塔的頂端有一個放射光芒的智慧之眼(原來的設計是棕櫚樹)，在此預示著人類在走完13個 Baktun 以後的覺醒。Annuite Coeptis 的意思是：神在眷顧著我們的所作所為； Novus Ordo Seclorum 的意思是：新世紀的新次序。

我 們目前生活在一個崇尚物質的時代，現代人主要關心的是金錢、美女、肉欲、享樂、成就、權力和地位。對此沒有興趣的人也只能無可奈何在生活濁流之中苦苦掙 扎。人們對由此而帶來的精神世界的崩潰已司空見慣，對邪惡、殘暴、戰爭、災難、瘟疫、飢餓、恐怖主義，和瘋狂的社會亂象也漸趨麻木。很少人能意識到人類社 會已在走向一條自我毀滅之路。

在如此人慾橫流和物慾橫流的社會，有什麼力量能淨化地球呢？肯定不是靠政府和法律的強行管制，因為法律是人定 的，是有漏洞的，違法者可以靠地位、關係和金錢逃脫懲罰。此外，法律只能制裁看得見的人的行為，而不可能約束看不見的人的內心。當然更不可能靠所謂科學的 突破，因為正是科學使人類越來越追求物質享受和遠離道德良心。

這種使人類道德回升的力量只能來自覺醒的人類，也就是說人類必須反思，而且一 定是要有相當數量的。但是在這樣一個充滿誘惑和生存壓力的社會，人類反思談何容易！更不用說大批人共同參與反思！因為即便是有個別人想反思，對社會所造成 的影響也是相當有限的。這或許可以淨化個人，根本不可能起到“淨化地球”的作用。

根據瑪雅曆法，1992年是最後一個Baktun (第十三個) 的最後一個20年的第一年 (20年就是一個 Unial，瑪雅曆法稱這最後的20年為“地球更新期”)。縱觀近十年之大事 (1992 - 2001)，唯有李洪志先生所倡導的以宇宙精神“真善忍”為修煉原則的法輪大法能被認為正在起著淨化地球的作用。我後來又發現了兩個有意思的數 字，1992年正是李洪志先生在社會上公開傳法輪大法的第一年，李洪志先生的生日是5月13日(又是一個13)。從1992年到1999年短短7年時間 裡，中國的修煉者已達近億之眾。李洪志先生使得眾多的修煉者從拜金縱慾的社會死圈中走出來，教修煉者學會反思，用修煉者的話來說是“向內找”。在中國這樣 一個嚴厲的“懲善揚惡”的國家，千百萬人修心向善應該可以被認為是“淨化地球”的明證。1999年7月，江氏集團開始鎮壓法輪大法，這一突發事件看似偶 然，但從歷史的角度上來看，卻又是必然的。第一，這一事件的發生印證了諾查丹瑪斯的預言。諾氏在他的《諸世紀》中預言，公元1999年的7月將會發生一個 重大事件。這個事件是一個重要的記號，正邪的交戰從此拉開序幕。諾氏的大多數預言在時間上一向含糊，但這次一反常態，第一次明明白白地寫下1999年7月 這樣準確的時間，令人無法置疑。(詳細解譯見李洪志先生的《預言參考》)第二，法輪功從此被推向世界舞台，不再是一個局部的，部份人群的修煉行為。因為一股淨化和更新地球的力量必須要面對世界，必須具備傳播“真善忍”和鏟除邪惡的威力。法輪功人的“法正乾坤”其實就是“淨化地球”的更全面的說法。

這種全球性的影響最終會導致家喻戶曉，使得地球上的每一個人都會有機會(也許不止一次)對此反思，做出判斷。

幾千年前瑪雅人就根據天象做出預言，覺醒的人們將會完成“淨化地球”這一神聖使命。在2012年12月21日，人類將走向全新的文明。

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槍手雙親死亡、哥哥遭警帶走　美槍枝問題再起爭議！  聖誕節前夕此新聞震驚全世界.

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美國當地時間14日上午於康乃狄克州某間小學，發生震驚全球的槍擊事件，到目前為止造成28名人死亡，警方帶回嫌犯的哥哥問話。又因為這次的校園屠殺事件，美國槍枝問題再度掀起爭議。

殘忍射殺雙親以及無辜小生命的槍手Adam Lanza自己飲彈自盡後，警方到槍手位於新澤西州住處搜索，發現蘭薩的父親死在屋內，警方帶走蘭薩的哥哥問話。

繼2007年韓裔學生掃射校園、2012年7月持面具的小丑闖進電影院射殺，這次的康州槍擊事件，能稱得上是美國史上第2起重大槍擊案，也讓美國槍枝管制再度成為大眾討論的議題。

長期以來，美國犯罪率居高不下，槍枝濫用問題也浮上檯面，但由於美國憲法第2修正案明文規定，禁止侵犯人民持有武器的權利，以及提供美國政府金錢的「全國步槍協會」（NRA）影響等，導致美國槍枝管制始終無法順利形成。

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